Hmm…I was checking out my site stats today…I am able to see the search terms people type in when they find my blog. The search term that stood out is the following “does one have sex with a Tantrika”. This is a complex question without a correct answer. Tantra is as unique as the individual practicing Tantra whether as a professional, or on a personal level. My personal Tantra practice is only ever practiced with my lover, best friend…who is also known as my husband. I have never and will never have sex with my clients.
My approach to Tantra is very heart centered. I focus on breath, compassionate touch, self awareness, open communication, developing one’s sexual intelligence, and Tantric rituals. I have had a number of clients ask about intercourse, or sexual contact. While there are likely thousands of individuals who incorporate sexual contact into their practice, that is not now and will never be a part of my practice.
My reasons for approaching Tantra in this way are complex. First off, for me personally (I mean absolutely no disrespect to any other individuals point of view) I would not feel comfortable sharing sexual intimacy with individuals who I am not in love with. I am now and have always been a monogamous woman. I cherish the deep connection I have with my partner (my husband). Because of our connection, love, and partner awareness, we are able to reach states of bliss beyond what I ever imagined possible.
Beyond my relationship, even if I happened to be an unattached woman, for me, being paid for sexual intimacy, or having multiple sexual experiences with individuals who I do not have a deep emotional connection with, even through a Tantric approach, simply would not feel right. I have discussed this sensitive topic with a number women and men who incorporate sexual intimacy into their practice, and I fully respect their individuality, their bravery, and their path, but it is not the right path for me.
I prefer to explore the erotic aspects of my mind through my erotic fantasy writing….I would love to hear what you think about this topic. Although some individuals I work with would prefer a more intimate approach, I know that the majority of my clients sincerely appreciate my boundaries and understand that it provides them with a different level of self development. Any thoughts on this matter?