Sexual Healing


Imagine if you would that you were able to let go of thinking of sex or your sexual thoughts as taboo. That you were able to ignite your passion, free yourself from sexual stigmas and the guilt or shame associated with having an active libido.

Imagine that you were able to completely and totally not only accept, but entirely embrace your sexual energy and your appetite for sex. This is one of my wishes for you…that you embrace all aspects of your sexuality. It is something that I have been working towards my entire life.

For the longest time, I wished I had a “normal” life passion and purpose, but no matter how much I tried to discover a different passion, I kept coming back to the realization that my passion is sex, sacred sexuality, love, making love, and human sexuality in general. Since you found your way to my blog, I can only assume that you also have a keen interest in sex, Tantra, or some aspect of sexuality.

I am here to tell you that it is okay. It is healthy, as long as you find a positive way to express your sensual energy and your sexual appetite. For me, expressing myself sexually means waking up and having an orgasm before my coffee. Then, during the middle of the day, I have a shower or a “nap” and through an orgasmic meditation, I often have another 2 or more orgasms.

Even after having multiple orgasm throughout the day, by the time my lover gets home, all I can think about is a good shag. Yes, as you can see, I like sex and I love multiple orgasms!

I am sharing this with you so that you can reflect on your own sexual appetite. For years I held back. I felt so much guilt because my mind, if left on auto pilot, would automatically turn to thoughts of sex. Because I was repressing an important aspect of my being, my sexuality, I actually felt physically ill. I developed cysts on my ovaries, had intense cramps before and during my moon cycle, and overall I felt just plain crappy.

It wasn’t until I gave in to my inner sex Goddess, allowed her to come to life and to merge with me that I felt truly alive and magically, my physical body healed. I attribute my healing to multiple orgasms and fantastic, soul fulfilling sex. Think that sounds crazy? I beg to differ. According to Web MD, the “10 Surprising Health Benefits to Sex” are as follows: sex boosts immunity, lowers your blood pressure, improves cardiovascular health, boosts self esteem, improves intimacy, reduces pain, reduces prostate cancer risk, strengthens pelvic floor muscles, helps you sleep better and even helps you maintain a healthy weight. Sex is literally what the doctor orders. Sounds good to me!

How do you express your sexual energy? Do you ever feel guilty for thinking of sex too often? If so, let it go! Accept yourself as you are. As long as you find a healthy outlet (consensual partner sex, masturbation, orgasmic meditation, or even directing your sexual energy into your hobby or passion) there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. That’s all she wrote. Sweet dreams.

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  1. naturegirl1 says:

    I have always been a very sexual “being”, not to mention uninhibited! But for toomany years Phil (hubby number 2) & I had been bumping along in what we assumed was sexual bliss. Then we suddenly found that we were getting into a rut, we had always been naturists, so mixing with other naked people was “normal” for us, but one day in 2002 we found ourselves in a conversation with some friends that turned our sexual world upside down! Amongst other things, we discovered that sex can be a shared thing even beyond the constraints of a happy marriage. Involving third and even fourth parties, sharing the the gift of pleasure brought about a sexual awakening we couldn’t have imagined. I have also since become interested in Tantra & massage. I plan to indulge myself in my first Tantric massage with yoni massage in a couple of weeks. I’m looking forward to it!!!!

    1. Tantrachick says:

      I can identify with being a sexual being. I too have always been a sexual being. Sexual ruts suck! My hubby, Mountain and I, also my second husband, had a rut after I had a series of miscarriages. Nothing could turn me on, not even life. It was a dark time for me. Yes, we have also discussed various relationship possibilities, but for us, we are deeply satisfied with our current monogamous relationship. Tantra, role playing, sensual dance, mask play and other sacred sexuality practices work for us. Of course, I am not one to say we will never entertain another arrangement, as I am aware that life is about embracing the process and challenge of change, but at the moment, I can’t see us ever going down that path. I am pleased to hear that you and Phil have found a sexual bliss path that works for you!

      Curious, are you seeing a male or female practitioner? I have experienced Tantric massage from both male and female practitioners and of course, Mountain. I personally prefer a female masseuse, but every person is unique!

      Thanks again for your passionate and open comments! Truly a delight! Joy

  2. naturegirl1 says:

    Her name is Alison, she is an experienced massage therapist (therapeutic massage, reflexology & Indian head massage) but is totally new to Tantric massage. In fact I will be her first female client (but I am not paying, she is using me as a guinea pig).

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Wow, nice! Sounds like it will be an excellent opportunity for growth for both of you! Not sure if you saw the video on my site of a ‘taste of tantra massage’. It is important, in my humble opinion, to set an intention for your massage. For instance, I embrace my sexuality…I am a Goddess… I deeply and completely love and accept myself!

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