Couples often ask me about open relationships and whether or not this type of alternative arrangement would work for them. Although I am able to provide guidance, I cannot answer this question definitively. Throughout my years of working with hundreds of couples and individuals, I have learned that there are no standard recipes to achieving relationship success. While my relationship is 100% monogamous, each couple’s path to a fulfilling connection is as unique as a snowflake.
There are no right answers that will apply to every situation. While reading articles and books about the topic may provide you with some helpful information or ideas, in order to be successful in your partnership, you need to open the lines of communication with your lover. This is especially true for couples who are considering exploring the fringe benefits of a less conventional arrangement. The following are three vital ingredients to creating a healthy open relationship:
Honesty: Communicating often and honestly about the boundaries of your relationship is key to ensuring that each partner’s needs are being met
Priority: Taking time to celebrate your primary relationship without third-party distractions will help each of you feel more secure.
Commitment: For this type of arrangement to be successful, each partner must be committed to the primary relationship.
Before you venture down this path, make sure that it is what both you and your partner truly desire. As I often say, whatever your goal or vision for your relationship, the most important thing to remember is to be patient. “Anything worth having is worth waiting for.”