Sexual Healing (Previous Post)
Even my best friend can’t believe how often Mountain and I have sex. Trust me, with 7 kids ranging in ages from 7 to 21 (we have four in our home and 3 living independently), it is not always easy to ensure that we get our “date time”. When our kids were younger, as you can likely imagine, things were even more intense. It’s hard to think of your breasts as sexual when you’re nursing your babe. I think the most challenging time sexually for us was when we were trying for our youngest girl. We had three extremely challenging miscarriages, including one that happened directly after we found out we were having twins.
People thought we were crazy! We already had so many children, but our then youngest daughter was desperate for a baby sister and I continued to have dreams of a little girl. Eventually, our baby girl was born. She completed our family. My hubby agreed to shut down the factory, but not before knocking me up one last time. I miscarried on January 1st, 2005. So we finally shut down the Nelson baby making factory:-) With the weight of my past sexual abuse and 5 miscarriages (I also miscarried our youngest son’s twin) we had our work cut out for us.
Maintaining intimacy during the year after my last miscarriage was challenging. Add to that home schooling our kids, running 2 businesses, taking university courses from home and, well, it can be hard to find the time for sex. This is around the time that I attended the Quodoshka Workshop I wrote about previously. I also began exploring my own issues with men, sex, masturbation, and intimacy in general. My husband and I definitely had our work cut out for us.
Wow, as I am writing this, I can feel the weight of those experiences. That is even after such an intense focus on healing, releasing, forgiving and letting go. Healing is a life long journey. This is something I have learned:-) What the Quodoshka workshop did for us was absolutely incredible. We learned to open to each other and I learned how to let go into an orgasmic state without fear. More to come…as it filters through my subconscious mind to my conscious mind, I will share.
I think the most important message to others who are about to embark on their own sexual healing journey is: be patient with yourself. Healing takes time. If there are any of you who have questions about a particular sexual issue or relationship issue, remember, I am always here for you! Please email me: joyatshaktara.com
I am in and out this week, so writing may be a tad more sparadic, but I will always get back to you! From my heart to yours, Joy