The point that Ruby brought up this morning is so important:
In her comment, Ruby said, “…men need healing as much as women….sometimes we forget that as a society…..
I think they need much more healing touch than we realize as they all grow up in a society that excludes them from touch, except when that touch is either
a) sexual or
b) aggressive in nature.”
I whole heartedly agree! It is my belief that part of the path to maturing as a man is to learn to receive and give sacred touch. I was pleasantly surprised by my male client’s reactions to sacred touch. Until I was well established, I was extremely cautious when taking on new male clients.
I remember one client in his mid twenties came for his session with me after a night of drinking. He was 15 minutes late and had the distinct smell of alcohol on his breath. He apologized for both his tardiness and his present state, but did not want to cancel, as he had driven quite a distance to attend his session.
Based on the circumstances, I was hesitant to go forward with the session, but he seemed keen, so I accommodated. His session was quite amazing and I was so pleased, but as I was finishing with my signature heart connection stance, he asked what it would cost to continue.
I stepped back with a shocked and disappointed look on my face and launched into my 30 second ‘this is not a happy ending’ rant. The look on his face illustrated to me that I had completely misjudged his intention.
He simply said, “Oh gosh, I’m so sorry if you misunderstood, but no, I actually just felt more unconditional love flowing from you than I have ever felt in my life.” Aww….poor sweet thing. I felt so bad for allowing my fear to shape my reaction to his most innocent request.
He went on to be a longtime client of mine. He learned the arts of sensual touch, heart connection and heart-centered communication, among other Tantric techniques. Thanks for your wonderful comments, Ruby. It was very challenging to overcome my fear and open to accepting male clients, but it was such a wonderful journey!