David mentioned in his most recent comment on my post that the passage I quoted from The Lost Diary of Don Juan was ‘sexist’. I can only assume that he was referring to the fact that, in the specific reference, the character, Don Juan, is highlighting the importance of the female in comparison to the male during the act of making love.
Since I posted the passage from Doulgas Carlton Abrams book, I thought that I would clarify my own thoughts on the issue David brought up.
I will first say that I see my husband as my equal in all ways. I honor his masculinity, his strength, and I honor his lingam and his sexual energy. I equally honor my femininity, my strength, and and I honor my yoni and my sexual energy.
I also believe that male energy dwells in me and that female energy dwells in my husband. It is through accepting and honoring both the male/shiva and female/shakti energy within that we find balance.
I believe that we walk on this earth lifetime after lifetime, soaking up knwoledge and hopefully learning the lessons we need to learn. In fact, although I cannot say whether it was a past life memory or simply a hypnotic dream, but in many of my past life sessions, I saw myself as male. I have most definitely walked this earth in the body of a male.
Have I been wounded in this lifetime at the hands of men? Yes. In fact, from a very young age. Have I forgiven the men who have caused me harm? Yes, thought the process was the biggest challenge I have taken on in this lifetime. Is it possible that my life experiences cause me to favor the female form in a sexual exchange and as sexual teachers? I suppose the truthful answer would be yes.
According to David Ramsdale and Cynthia Gentry in their book – Red Hot Tantra, “As women lost their natural, goddess-based Tantric knowledge and power, they forgot how to transmit spiritual energy through sex as a conscious, sacred art.”
Because of the serious imbalance there is so much healing and work to be done to correct this imbalance. In essence, the media has castrated men, taken away their power, and depicts most male characters as incompetent and cock driven.
At the same time, for centuries, women have been shamed for their sexuality and sexual expression, told that their sexual desire makes them ‘sluts’ and in fact, as I highlighted in a recent post, women are even told by modern authority figures that they should ‘stop dressing like sluts to avoid being raped.’
Whether male or female, each person who feels a connection to their own gender feels the pain associated with this most damaging imbalance. As a society of men and women, we have a responsibility to correct this imbalance.
One of the main reasons I spend my time writing, reading, teaching, and promoting Tantra is because I believe it is one of the many tools that has an important role to play in healing the imbalance that both men and women as a society feel.
In fact, it is my life’s mission to love all beings equally; even those who have caused others or even myself, harm on this earth. This is a lofty goal, especially considering my childhood abuse and sexual trauma in my teens.
I am sure that some of our female readers have also experienced abuse at the hands of men. It is equally possible that some of our male readers have experienced abuse at the hands of females. Abuse takes many forms….sexual, physical, mental, emotional and financial to name a few.
All I can say in response to our collective pain is: May you be happy. May I be happy. May we be happy. May we be free.