Tantra and the art of kissing!

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In  my Just Ask Joy post yesterday, one of Tantrachick’s readers brought up an interesting point. From his basic understanding of Tantra, he had somehow understood that kissing is not necessarily and important aspect of Tantra.

I was contemplating this last night and I came to some conclusions about why this might be. If you think about it, most of the information available online focuses on either the spiritual aspect of Tantra, the traditional ritual aspects that are a part of some forms of Tantra, or the strictly sexual aspects of Tantra such as yoni and lingam massage.

It seems that, as for what is available to the average person on the net, Tantric kissing is not receiving as much attention, which possibly makes it seem like kissing is not a focus in Tantra. Not so!

Once again, we must remember that there are many different approaches to Tantra. For this post, I will simply speak about my approach to Tantra. For me, kissing my lovers mouth and body with my lips and tongue and having him kiss my mouth and body with his lips and tongue are an important aspect of our ‘Tantric connection’.

To feel the soft touch of my lovers lips on any part of my body transports me to a trance-like state. In addition to the physical pleasure experienced when kissing, there is an energy exchange that you can literally feel when you connect your tongue with your lovers tongue.

I will not get into technique in this post…if someone is interested in learning about technique, please let me know and I will write a post focused on kissing techniques. What I want to focus on now is that kissing can be an integral part of your Tantra practice!

The Kama Sutra highlights eight different types of kisses, various Tantric texts, including Chandamaharosana Tantra (circa 700 CE) mentions kissing and kissing is often mentioned in references to healing Tao massage.

I suppose one of the reasons that kissing and Tantra are not as well connected on the internet is because a lot of what you have access to is professionally created…and not necessarily created by true Tantric lovers…

However, if you had a moment to part my curtains and peer into my bed chamber while my lover and I are in a Tantric trance, you would most definitely catch us kissing each other from head to toe and everywhere in between!

Well, that’s all she wrote folks!


15 Comments Add yours

  1. naturegirl1 says:

    This is something that has puzzled me for some time now! I am a very “touchy feely” sort of woman and I love kissing. Phil & I kiss several times a day, anything from a quick peck to a full blooded passion rouser on the mouth when the circumstances allow it. We love to kiss in public too, unashamed of our feelings for each other.
    But during the six years that we indulged in sexual experimentation neither of us got to kiss any of the other partners we played with. Which is really bizarre considering what else we did!

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Me too! It’s so funny to me when my hubby and I pause for a long kiss and get stares! I am fully comfortable with public displays of affection…Interesting..sharing bodies but not mouths during sexual experimentation…good point! hope all is well in your world! J

  2. Chris says:

    I remember in the film French Kiss, Kevin Kline’s character explained that to kiss a prostitute costed more than sex. Meg Ryan’s character instantly could relate and said that she could detach from evereything else but that kissing was very intimate. I understand this. Stimulating another’s erogenous zones is merely giving pleasure, but kissing is a very mutual and very connecting act.

    I just find it odd that it gets so little play in the tantra dialog

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Yes, that’s the movie that came to my mind as well. You are correct that kissing is sometimes downplayed. In my research, I actually found a few articles that talk about how kissing takes you into a physiological space rather than a spiritual space, so is therefore not a part of Tantra. I do not agree with this. Especially for longtime lovers, kissing allows one to enter a deep, trancelike state..in my experience.

  3. georgieporgie says:

    I practise tantra and find kissing of all parts of the body, including he yoni/lingam normal. My partner and I love to feel the rising of the emotions connected.

    Another independent sequence is the keeping aroused, and staying in this vibrating energy flow (Maithuna), but not letting the energy go (no orgasm). This sequence is very difficult to achieve and I needed more than 20 years to be able to do it.

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Thank you for bringing your voice to the blog and the discussion. I am pleased to have you here and enjoy hearing about your path to sensual awakening. From my heart to yours, Joy

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