?She Dresses Like Such a Slut!?

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Slut Walk @ London 2011
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Okay, so this conversation I had with a good friend of mine has been bouncing around in my head all day! By the title of this post, you’re probably wondering… what the heck, Joy? Well,  just to clarify, the friend I was chatting with is a wonderful woman, so this is in no way an attack on her or her opinions.

However, I must admit that I was surprised at her perception of a particular situation that she was describing to me…I won’t get into the details, but at some point, while talking about a pre-teen young lady, she stated with distaste “she dressed like such a slut!”

I sat there in a mild form of inner shock, contemplating how to respond to what she had just said…instead of responding in the moment, I re-directed the conversation to talking about Slut Walk and other related topics…hoping to bring some awareness about the challenge wtih judging a woman’s clothing in this manner. She went on to tell me how disgusting it was that a young woman who was raped received negative feedback because she was wearing a min-skirt when she was raped.

She was horrified that the media would even comment on the clothing of this pre-teen who was brutally attacked and gang raped. I found it so interesting that, on the one hand, she felt that it was completely acceptable to refer to a young girl’s clothing as being something a ‘slut’ would wear, yet during our next conversation, she was appalled by the medias reaction to the other girl’s clothing. There was a missing link between the one judgment and the other line of thinking.

Hmmmm….I have been rolling this around in my mind. How many informed and intelligent people who generally approach life in a well-rounded manner don’t agree with the media or authority blaming a girl or woman’s clothing for contributing to her sexual assault, but feel entirely comfortable commenting on how someone else chooses to dress….

I think this issue in general is something that, as a society, we all need to focus on. To me, the way we dress is a personal choice. I can admit that I am not a fan of pre-teen girls walking around in clothing that creates the illusion that they are fully mature sexual beings.

However, my discomfort is based on the fear that they will be targeted inappropriately by a sexual predator, which I think was part of the concern my friend had for the young girl in question. It is not because I think that women or girls should dress in a particular manner to make me or anyone else feel more comfortable. Oh the beauty of living in a world where each of us are able to fully express ourselves through the clothing or lack of clothing we wear without receiving negative comments or attention…..

I hope this turns into a conversation…I would love to hear some of your thoughts on this most sensitive and important topic!  

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