So many individuals and couples find themselves feeling shameful or guilty about their sexuality, the way they express their sexuality or their sexual appetite. As a Tantric practitioner and Sex coach, the balancing act is possibly even more challenging.
My main role in life is as a mother. Secondary to my role as a mother is my role as a lover, best friend and wife to Mountain. Beyond my nuclear family, I have friends, family, extended family and of course, my community. Being a Sex Coach is intensely rewarding, but it can also be a tricky mask to slip into a conversation.
Just imagine…you’re sitting having tea with a conservative woman you’ve just met, she is telling you about her new job at the local child care center…when she asks you what you do for a living and you boldly say “who me? Oh, I’m a sex coach!” The fact of the matter is, some people just don’t want to know that Sex Coaches are even a part of our society.
The trick that works for me is to have a variety of masks I wear for different purposes. For instance, as a mother, I am compassionate, loving and wholesome. As a wife, I am loving, communicate openly and on the flip side, I have the sexual appetite of a wild animal during mating season. As a Sex Coach, my role is to be the facilitator and guide, and not an active participant in the intimate aspects of a couple’s session.
In my community, acquaintances know me as a down to earth hippie style home schooling mom. My deeper connections know the inner core of my being in all her expressions–the woman beneath the masks if you will. My point in sharing this with you is to assure you that, being a tiger or tigress in the bedroom and a mother, father, business woman or man is okay! If you happen to enjoy spanking or being spanked at night, but work in a professional setting during the day, it’s all good! As long as your sex life and sexual connections are mutually beneficial and consensual, it’s time to let go of your shame and embrace your inner sexual being!