Erotic Enigma


I think I may have written about this topic before, but I have a deeper understanding of the meaning and how it applies to me:-) First, the definition…

e·rot·ic/iˈrätik/ – Of, relating to, or tending to arouse sexual desire or excitement.

e·nig·ma/iˈnigmə/ – A person or thing that is mysterious, puzzling, or difficult to understand.

So, the individual who originally mentioned in a facebook message that I was an “erotic enigma”…was trying to say that I have a tendency to bring about sexual desire or arousal, yet I am mysterious,, puzzling and often difficult to understand. I sort of understood at the time, but even after I asked him to elaborate and he told me that I was an incredibly transparent and open woman, yet totally inaccessible, I still didn’t really get what he meant.

However, a client recently told me that, he really didn’t have anything in particular to work on; he had booked his session with me because he was intrigued. He wanted to understand more about who I am and what I do. That’s when it dawned on me; I really am an erotic enigma! I already understand that people are aroused watching other who are empowered to be sexually transparent. Yet, although I share my intimate life with the whole world, because I am a monogamous woman with a huge gaggle of kids means that I am not really accessible.

I felt bad that this young man had to book a session with me just to simply ask me a few questions and “pick my brain”. At the same time, it’s not like I can sit down with individuals and couples from around the world to a cup of tea. When I’m not practicing or writing, I spend the rest of my time hanging out with my family and close friends. There’s honestly not much time for idle chit-chat. So, the one gratis offering I will continue to provide is my availability to answer email questions.

Life has been beautifully intense, but our rhythm is balancing now and I am more available in an erotic enigma kinda way:-) Well folks, that’s all she wrote! Sending out a big hug and kiss to all…from my heart to yours, Joy

Copyright Tantrachick 2011

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Theo Black says:

    I think you’re teaching others to be erotic enigmas, too. Cause lots of people have to act pretty uninteresting in their work and family lives, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have the free ride of being swept up in the erotic. Good work!

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Thank you both for your kind comments and for expanding on what I wrote…that is my hope…to inspire erotic enigmatic behaviour:-) The joyous expression of sensual energy…deep, soul moving sex…from my heart to yours, Joy


    Hi Joy,

    Can I ask you a few questions on tantra?

    From my understanding, you practice tantra massage, correct?

    How do you like the fact that someone who hasnt started any type

    of sex life with a partner, takes a huge approach by tantra?

    I mean huge, considering we’re talking about this person letting another touch her for the very first time. Is tantra the best way, considering she is turning to it, as she is looking for n erotic experience, full of tender and care, when she besides cant find a partner.


    1. Tantrachick says:


      Very interesting question. I can only give you my thoughts on this question of course…you must in the end follow your heart and trust your intuition to know what is best for you.

      I have facilitated this type of session for numerous women. Being touched in a gentle, compassionate and sensuous manner by a professional and authentic female healer can be a wonderful way to first experience the beauty of sensual energy. But always trust yourself!

      Please, if you have more questions or would like further clarification, please comment anytime!

      From my heart to yours, Joy

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