I deeply and completely love myself unconditionally. I honor my unique abilities and beauty! If you read these word just now and felt an awkwardness in your body or heart, you are like 80-90% of the people in our world. You do NOT unconditionally love and accept yourself. If you can say those words “I deeply and completely love myself unconditionally”, and you feel your heart sing, then you are one of the few beings who embraces their unique abilities and beauty.
This week there seems to be a theme among my clients. I have one client who does not embrace his body, another who does not like her shyness, and a third who pretty much hates everything about himself. I find it so sad that self loathing and an overall dislike for oneself is so common in our society. What are we as a culture doing wrong? How can we teach our children to love themselves unconditionally so that they will grow into confident, self-appreciating adults?
I think the key is to start with a solid foundation of love. From the moment our children are born, we must have the ultimate intention of making them feel loved. True love has firm boundaries, a solid structure, and an unwavering love that is real and true even in the face of great tests. Beyond unconditionally loving our children, we must love ourselves unconditionally as well. Children who feel unconditionally loved, but see their parent(s) self loathing are bound to feel confused.
When we feel confused, it is easy to question ourselves. I am guilty of self loathing from time to time, though I have done so much healing and work that overall I love myself unconditionally. That doesn’t mean that I am not hard on myself. I think it is an easy habit to pick up and then, even if you overcome it, and fully embrace yourself as you are, it is equally easy to give back into the habit. That is why a self loving practice is so helpful.
If you do not already have a daily practice to support your self-love, appreciation, and feed your passion, I highly recommend developing one for yourself. For me, I simply try to find something I am passionate about and incorporate it into my life. Of course I love to learn and thoroughly enjoy new experiences, so this works for me. I also have a daily joyous meditation practice where I enjoy exploring my body and when I spill over into orgasm, I give myself permission to feel bliss.
For me, experiencing an orgasm while channeling my sexual energy through my mind, body, spirit, and heart is the ultimate self loving practice. It picks me up, feeds my spirit, and provides me with profound pleasure. When I experience pleasure, I feel love. I manifest love, and loving vibrations flow from and to me. It is the ultimate experience of release (letting go of negativity) and explosion (letting love literally explode in my body).
Some people seek a guide when they first start down this path. I have led thousands of people on this journey and it is a profound experience for both myself and the people I work with. However, if you do not currently have access to a guide, you can walk this path yourself. Take some time to contemplate the changes you want to see in how you feel about yourself and then find a way to begin gently breaking out of your negative thought patterns.