You’re welcome. I just clicked on the link to your blog (warning, male nudity) which I am following, but honestly had never looked at before. You are touching base on a topic that is dear to my heart. I mentioned to one of my students/clients the other day that I barely notice when people are naked vs. clothed.
I realize this is not the norm, but it is just how I am based on a series of life experiences and a personal choice. I also embrace the fact that the nude body whether male or female is equally beautiful. In my book, I intentionally posted a very lovely photo of an average sized non-erect penis.
My point was to remind men that their genitals are beautiful too. Their bodies are beautiful too. We are not only a sexualized society, we have a tendency to focus on female sexuality through the objectification of women. If you search on the Internet for “goddess” or beautiful woman, you will find poses of women in very uncomfortable positions looking naked, but not very at home in her body.
This is why I find it hard to work with photographers even though I love many of the pictures that have resulted from various photo shoots. I am a deeply empowered woman, but the second I catch wind of someone’s ulterior motives I shut down emotionally.
What I love about the personal relationships that I have is that they are healthy with clearly defined boundaries. When I immerse myself in a relationship with someone, I do just that…I immerse myself in them. I have a tendency to prefer close connections with people who do the same in return.
What this means for both participants in the relationship is that there is little to no confusion and the chance of hurt feelings, miscommunications, or other common relationship challenges is slim to none. Not that it doesn’t ever happen, but it is rare. Now there are of course the exceptions (extended family). However, when I CHOOSE to be close to someone, I work very hard to build a solid foundation.
I guess, when we enter into a photo shoot, that base just doesn’t exist, so I feel a little lost, vulnerable and exposed. From the photos on your site, I can only assume that you do not have this same approach, or you have a photographer you truly trust. My lover and I are discussing setting up a shoot with him as my photographer.
Because I trust him so deeply, he has generally snapped the best shots of me, but other than a bit of body painting, we haven’t worked together in this way. The idea of having a structured photo shoot with him thrills me. I love the idea of letting go into myself while in front of the camera.
I can’t say for sure whether or not I will share the photos we take together, but I promise I will at least talk about the process. I originally planned on just commenting in response to your comment, but it was getting so long that I decided to post it instead, hope you don’t mind 🙂
Well, that’s all she wrote…from my heart to yours, Joy