Joy's Response: Eccentric Art Model


You’re welcome. I just clicked on the link to your blog (warning, male nudity) which I am following, but honestly had never looked at before. You are touching base on a topic that is dear to my heart. I mentioned to one of my students/clients the other day that I barely notice when people are naked vs. clothed.

I realize this is not the norm, but it is just how I am based on a series of life experiences and a personal choice. I also embrace the fact that the nude body whether male or female is equally beautiful. In my book, I intentionally posted a very lovely photo of an average sized non-erect penis.

My point was to remind men that their genitals are beautiful too. Their bodies are beautiful too. We are not only a sexualized society, we have a tendency to focus on female sexuality through the objectification of women. If you search on the Internet for “goddess” or beautiful woman, you will find poses of women in very uncomfortable positions looking naked, but not very at home in her body.

This is why I find it hard to work with photographers even though I love many of the pictures that have resulted from various photo shoots. I am a deeply empowered woman, but the second I catch wind of someone’s ulterior motives I shut down emotionally.

What I love about the personal relationships that I have is that they are healthy with clearly defined boundaries. When I immerse myself in a relationship with someone, I do just that…I immerse myself in them. I have a tendency to prefer close connections with people who do the same in return.

What this means for both participants in the relationship is that there is little to no confusion and the chance of hurt feelings, miscommunications, or other common relationship challenges is slim to none. Not that it doesn’t ever happen, but it is rare. Now there are of course the exceptions (extended family). However, when I CHOOSE to be close to someone, I work very hard to build a solid foundation.

I guess, when we enter into a photo shoot, that base just doesn’t exist, so I feel a little lost, vulnerable and exposed. From the photos on your site, I can only assume that you do not have this same approach, or you have a photographer you truly trust. My lover and I are discussing setting up a shoot with him as my photographer.

Because I trust him so deeply, he has generally snapped the best shots of me, but other than a bit of body painting, we haven’t worked together in this way. The idea of having a structured photo shoot with him thrills me. I love the idea of letting go into myself while in front of the camera.

I can’t say for sure whether or not I will share the photos we take together, but I promise I will at least talk about the process. I originally planned on just commenting in response to your comment, but it was getting so long that I decided to post it instead, hope you don’t mind 🙂

Well, that’s all she wrote…from my heart to yours, Joy


4 Comments Add yours

  1. Joy,

    First of all, I’m quite flattered that you took the time to respond to my comment the way you did, and your response follows the same style of eloquence and beauty as everything else that has made me a fan of your work.

    I have to admit that I definitely feel a sense of vulnerability whenever I take my clothes off in front of a new photographer (I have worked with several). In fact, being nude in front of one photographer is more unnerving than posing nude as a life model for a group of artists since the setting of a photoshoot is so much more intimate and personal.

    I am careful to review the work of any new photographer I work with before working with them, since just as you said, ulterior motives can quickly spoil the event. As much as I enjoy my nude body being the object of art, and sharing that with the world, I don’t present my body or artistic nudity for the sake of someone’s sexual enjoyment, so if I see a portfolio that is full of tasteless crotch shots, females in the spread eagle position or random pictures of men bent over, I’ll move along, since that photographer is more interested in sexualizing the body than they are making art. (There’s a real difference between erotic art and plain pornography, i.e. sensual work vs. sexual work, in my opinion.)

    Back to the topic of vulnerability, on New Year’s Eve, I shot with a male photographer for the first time, which was a big step for me. I’ve always felt far less comfortable with males than females, because males have always made me feel significantly more vulnerable, nude or not, but nude especially. Almost all of my close friends are females, and I try my hardest to avoid even being seen in the shower by my coworkers.

    My wife and I did a shoot like yours on our honeymoon. They are the most beautiful pictures of us that will never be seen by anyone, it was one of my most favorite bonding experiences with her.

    Thank you again for such a beautiful and flattering post. Look forward to reading and learning more from you!

    -Eccentric Art Model

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Wow, we have identical criteria, except what is hilarious is that I have never worked with a female photographer before. Maybe that would provide me with a completely different experience.

      I don’t know any personally and I have never found one interested in the work I do in my local area. I was moved by your passion for letting go and being vulnerable, thank you for sharing and also for joining the conversation!

      Well, I just lit 30 candles, poured two glasses of wine and cooked a beauty-full meal for my lover and our kids, hopefully he arrives home shortly…possibly we can collaborate in the future…who knows!

      From my heart to yours,


  2. I hope you had a good night the other night!

    I forgot to mention in my earlier post… I think that the sense of feeling “vulnerable” is what makes nude art beautiful. When your nude figure is captured on a lens, there really isn’t anything to hide, both you and the photographer are going to see every wonderful feature and every perceived flaw. This is especially true if either of you allow any type of audience to your work… When I see people who have taken their clothes off for the sake of allowing their bodies to be used for artistic nudity, I feel less like I see a nude person, and more like I can see into a person’s soul. It’s cheesy, I know, but that’s how I feel, the fact that people choose to overcome their vulnerability is what makes nude art powerful IMO.

    As far as the gender of photographers is concerned, I have always felt much more comfortable with females, but after my New Year’s shoot, I encourage people to work with both genders, maybe not equally, but at some point. In any case, professionalism really can be gender neutral!

  3. horns1313 says:

    This is a great example of power and grace and overcoming physical and mental emotional blocks and fears never did it nude but many people ride wild horses and bucking bulls and engage in fighting to do like ya’ll except probably no broken bones and hearts yes I don’t give a damn the necked body is sacred and artist seeing people enjoy being natural and fearless is great in fact being asked to undress or perform non sexual or as porn free for anyone I would take as a laudable comment or privilege if it is clean and not leading to a romp both women and men seeing me and perhaps watching them now could be a goal for accepting my many flaws truly on my bucket list thanks to the teacher and advocate joy and company information contained herein is based on inspirational examples of your important and empowering work yes let her or him ask me think I could be talked into artist nudity with a professional photographer without expecting a perfect body or well endowed thing thanks and contemplating

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