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  1. Mark McKay says:

    That skirt is phenomenal.

    Mark E. McKay 800 SW 9th Ave Amarillo , TX 79101 806-353-ROTH (7684) http://www.smartmoneyradio.net KGNC 710 AM, Saturday 8:06am


    1. Tantrachick says:

      Thanks Mark…not to be worn in public, lol

  2. sachafossa says:

    Beautiful! Powerful! Resonating 🙂
    May all women empower and embody their (Sex) Goddess more than their Victim.
    Tantra/Sacred Sexuality is an amazing path for such an accelerated awakening and transformation!
    Yet any path to your empowerment and wholeness is perfect!
    I personally choose the Tantric way as their is more PLEASURE involved. And healing can be pleasurable rather than even more traumatic and about suffering.
    Joy obviously gets this 🙂

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Wow you brought tears to my eyes, thank you! With love, Joy

      1. david says:

        Tantrachick. you do have a very HOT & SEXY body and you are a sex goddess

  3. Dana says:

    Thank you for sharing Joy and putting yourself out there. By sharing your struggles and pain, you not only heal yourself..but those around you that have experienced the same or similar things. We are all on this journey…in different places. (oh and also…by sharing your transformations…you help to transform those around around you as well). I am so so happy that I stumbled upon your website a year ago. There have been things that you’ve talked about & shared that I needed to hear. To the journey my friend 😉

  4. Tantrachick says:


    You also brought tears to my eyes…someone today asked if my clients read my blog. I know some of them do and am sure that lots of them don’t. Although it is nice that some of my clients have a glimpse into my life, I write and share so that people everywhere who have experienced similar moments or feelings along their path can feel inspired.

    Also, for those who have never experienced anything similar to be able to reflect on the experiences of others…I am deeply grateful that you have found my blog and that my words have resonated with you on some level. I appreciate you sharing and connecting! In community, from my heart to yours, Joy

  5. Ruby says:

    This is really lovely Joy and so wonderful of you to share your voice! I think you might enjoy reading this article about a woman who recently had nude images of her, posted to the internet out of revenge and with the intent to hurt and her response to it, has been very empowering. I hope you will find her essay really inspiring.

    Here is the news link ; http://www.cbc.ca/news/technology/emma-holten-responds-to-nude-photo-leak-with-consensual-images-1.2936324

    Link to her essay is here; http://www.hystericalfeminisms.com/consent/

    Also, regarding the comment about young girls cutting, sadly it is something many young men as well as women are turning to as a release for emotional pain. Gender is not a defining characteristic of self abuse. I hope that your brave sharing of your experiences can help others who have experienced similar issues to transform their self abusive and shameful self beliefs, to self love and acceptance.
    With love to you, as always xoxo

    1. Tantrachick says:

      It’s funny. My mother has never, ever read my blog (that I know of). She is not generally open to hearing about my work, so I keep it to myself. However, this morning, just after I posted this video, she sent me a link to the same information about the non-consensual photo leak. I then became brave and sent her a link to my blog post this morning. She has not opened the fb message yet and I am a bit nervous to hear her reaction.

      Yes, young men are cutting too. They are sexually assaulted and shamed as well. Gender is not a defining characteristic of self abuse, I wholeheartedly agree. I would say that 80% of my clients are men. Not all of them are coming to me for sexual healing, but many of them are. I feel a shift happening and I am so pleased to be part of it.

      Thank you as always for your insight and beauty (both internal and external).

      From my heart to yours,


  6. Hi Joy,
    Thanks again for your openness in sharing your story. Hope your Mom is OK with today’s post.

    While I have been trying to get my head around the concepts involved in Tantra for about seven years, I am still a neophyte. I’m wondering how you define Sex Goddess. I understand the Goddess concept because of Riane Eisler. In sachafossa’s post, the “Sex” was in parentheses. Is that significant?

    The reason I had asked earlier if clients read your blog is that if they do, is the term Sex Goddess delivering a confusing message? You had spoken of your dismay over having clients expecting “happy endings.” Joy, you are a beautiful woman. If you characterize yourself as a Sex Goddess, are you giving a wrong impression?
    P.S. BTW, I believe I just became your 5,000 th FB “Like.”

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Hi Dan,

      Yes, I hope so too. She called last night while I was out, so not sure yet, but the report was that she sounded happy, so fingers crossed. Victim to Sex Goddess is a book I am writing. For me, Goddess in the way I use it simply acknowledges the female essence, and the empowered aspect of my being.

      As a monogamous woman (did you read my post the Monogamous Slut?) this term can be confusing to some for sure. However, I have never and will never stop writing from my heart to prevent misunderstandings by others.

      I know for a fact that 3 of my current students read this blog. I also checked in with every client yesterday (3) and none of them read my blog, though I recommended yesterday’s post to one because they were speaking about their trials during high school.

      I should re-express my experience on the West Coast. When I FIRST started down this path, I was initially flooded with the wrong kind of requests…nothing quite as extreme as what I have experienced here…more people just trying to figure out what my offerings were.

      It took me all of one week to establish myself as a non sexual practitioner. IT was an easier journey because I rapidly became quite well known and possibly because Victoria, BC is such an open minded community, a variety of journalists and writers wrote about me, interviewed me and one even experienced a session and wrote about her experience in one of the top alternative magazines in BC.

      Here I have found that it is a longer process, but I cannot dim my light so that others may understand me. The post I wrote recently, I deleted. It was just a moment where I found myself feeling overwhelmed with the requests for sessions that were outside of my boundaries as a woman, wife, and practitioner.

      At the moment I am receiving the right kind of requests from people who have taken more time to explore my practice and ask questions to clarify.

      I also created an outline for my VIP Program so that potential students/clients are able to have a deeper understanding of the process before signing up.

      So I will keep shining, expressing, and diving deep and my truth, over time, will be clear to the people who want to work with me.

      Thank you for your concern and your sweet sentiment Dan! From my heart to yours, Joy

  7. Joy,
    Thank you for your in-depth response. As long as you are comfortable about how you “shine, express and dive deep into your truth,” that is all that matters.

    Glad your clients now have their expectations in line with who you are as a Sex Goddess.

    Speaking as a horny man who has been sexually repressed for many decades, I understand how a gorgeous woman’s openness about her sexuality can be misinterpreted. Just trying to be helpful.
    With admiration and respect,

    1. Tantrachick says:


      I am writing a blog post about this to dive even deeper. I appreciate you sharing your point of view on this subject, as I know it is one the is deeply personal….the fact that you share a piece of you when you comment means a lot to me.

      I am sorry to hear that you are sexually repressed! I shine my light so that others may too find a way to shine!

      May you shine,


  8. Joy,
    Thank you for helping me “shine.”

    When I was a student at a Catholic university, I, and many of my schoolmates, lined up EACH DAY to confess that we had masturbated. It wasn’t until my 60’s that I could pleasure myself without feeling guilty all day. How bad is that?

    Now, I am no longer repressed, just starved and limited in my ability to perform sexually.

    Joy, reading your posts helps me come to grips with my reality. Thank you for that.

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Dan, May you shine, I wish it for you! It is actually quite common for men in their late fifties to early sixties to finally embrace their bodies and let go of feelings of shame around masturbation.

      I am glad my posts help, that warms my heart! Joy

  9. Sacha Fosssa says:

    I believe our true essence as men and women, and all genders in between, is Divine. We are Gods and Goddesses. When we claim that fully and refer to ourselves as God and/or Goddess, we are simply claiming our divinity, our birthright. I put the Sex in parentheses before Goddess in my comment because to me it is inherent that all aspects of us, including of course our sexuality, are inherently divine. Claiming to be a Sex Goddess is simply accentuating one part of you that your are passionate about. You can be any kind of Goddess you desire! Light, Dark, Domestic, Corporate, Sensual, Compassionate, Passionate, Artistic, Intellectual, Inspirational, Practical, Playful, Laughing, Pagan, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, you name it! What qualifier empowers you?
    And if using the label of Goddess does not resonate so be it!
    Choose what does! That is all that ever matters 🙂

    1. Tantrachick says:

      Well spoken dear sister! If you like it, it’s good!! With love, Joy

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