The Sexy Feminist


Hey lovelies,

I am back from my adventures, feeling inspired and seem to have a lot on my mind lately that I’d like to share! This morning as I was laying in bed responding to emails and messages, I accidentally it a link to an article about “modern feminism”. I did NOT like what I read!

I dug a bit deeper, reading tidbits of information from a variety of sites and was honestly quite shocked by the varying opinions and judgements placed on women who identify as feminists. The definition of a feminist is simply someone who supports feminism.

According to Merriam-Webster, feminism is, the simple Definition of feminism is:

  • the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities

  • organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests

So why does our society (both men and women alike) continue to tell a woman what she must look like, act like, or wear on her body if she identifies as a feminist? A man can be a feminist, a woman can be a fact, any human on earth regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity can be a feminist.

I want equality for all human beings, regardless of their race, gender, sexual orientation or fashion choices. What I have also noticed is that the gender pendulum is swinging in the opposite direction. In the past, it was acceptable to make fun of women on a core level and advertisers regularly downplayed female intelligence…


I don’t think the current attack on masculinity is quite as intense but it is still disturbing. I recently saw a post on Facebook featuring a father sitting in the shower with his sick child. The post went viral and not for the reasons I would have liked to see.

Rather than focusing on the love and patience clearly evident in the photo, a huge portion of the reactions were negative. Just because both the man and the child were nude, people thought it was inappropriate. Child abuse is inappropriate. A father caring for his child is beautiful.

The bottom line: I can support equal rights wearing whatever the fuck I want and so can you!


6 Comments Add yours

  1. sinnerz13 says:

    I wrote about this myself.

    1. Joy says:

      Awesome, feel free to share a link!

  2. Bare Beach Bum says:

    There has been an attack on the male especially macho one for several decades. Look at how men are portrayed in television and the movies. The husband or male figure is typically a stupid, diminutive, pig or some combination thereof. Take a look back at Homer Simpson or Al Bundy; they are bumbling buffoons. Most of the Disney programs portray the father-figure as weak if they show him at all.

    It is no wonder that most millennial males are self-centered and diminutive when they grew up with these men as role-models. They didn’t have a John Wayne or Clint Eastwood figure. Instead they had Tim Taylor, Dan Conner, and Jerry Seinfeld which were barely males to compare. You won’t see any Don Drapers out of this crowd. The assault on everything and anything male has been going on for over three decades, and starts when boys are toddlers.

    Now days if you crack any female joke even around several males, you will be called on it while it is perfectly fine to emasculate a man even in the media. So while it is very common to read comments like yours, you will seldom find a comment like mine. What I am saying is not anti-women because this discussion is not either/or. I just wanted to point out that I believe quite the contrary to your contention that more women are being ridiculed. It is not P.C. to make fun of a woman, but it is P.C. to make fun of men.

    I totally agree with your comment on that picture of the man with his infant. I saw that picture reposted on another site since I don’t have/want a Facebook account. Society has lost all common sense and perspective when it comes to nudity especially about children. Instead of seeing the beauty and love, people see peodephillia which is a vile and demented act.

    People need to lighten up these days. It seems that there are always someone protesting or doesn’t like something about anything. I like the differences between men and women or different cultures for that matter. I see nothing wrong with making light of those differences on occasion as long as it is in good fun. I’m up for any light-hearted poking about males in the proper context. People need to get a thicker skin and quit being so damn serious all of the time.

  3. horns1313 says:

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    1. Joy says:

      Lovely. I am so pleased you have felt empowered through reading my posts!

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