Checking In…

Hey lovelies, I wanted to wish you a blissful Sunday! Also, I wanted to mention that I am tired of hearing my own voice! At one point we had a thriving community of active participants and often had one or more on going conversations. I took a sabbatical and since then have found that things…

Oh My Goddess! Twice in One Day!

I just can’t seem to get enough of you! It is a delicious feeling to be writing again. I feel like a woman who was lost in the desert and found water. To write and immerse myself in the thoughts, feelings, and observations is true bliss! I don’t have much to say, just that I…

Behind the Smoke and Mirrors

Being a Sensual Living and Tantric Intimacy Coach seems to have a certain allure to it. I sometimes launch into a conversation with someone, kind of losing myself in my passion for sex, sexuality, and sensuality and then..I look up and their eyes are practically popping out of their head. It is in these moments…

Tantra With Joy…

During my teens, I was shy, unsure of myself, and had some major self-esteem issues. I had a tendency to dress in bulky clothing that deflected attention away from my body. Part of my motivation was to deflect the attention of my adopted dad who began sexually assaulting me as a young child. My efforts…

Love Yourself as You Are!

This week Miss Ruby Slippers sent me an article on pussy bleach…I also received an email from a young man asking me if I thought that the veins on his penis might repel women. Let’s break this down…there is a company promoting a product that a) contains a well-known carcinogen b) is meant for a woman’s most…

Can Tantra Increase My Lady's Libido?

Question: Can Tantra help elevate my wife’s libido? If so, how? Joy’s Answer: As with most of the questions I am asked…it is very challenging to answer a question without additional information of  a very intimate and personal nature. However, I can share my thoughts based on both my experience and the experiences of my clients. If…

Just Ask Joy: My Penis is too Big! Help!

Question: “Hi Joy I need help! Recently, while doing a swimming class (at the pool) a lady complained that what I was wearing was inappropriate. She felt I was bulging out at the seams! I’m sick of it and now my girlfriend found out and she’s being distant and un-touching. Being a bit larger is unattractive to…

Just Ask Joy: Lack of Sex Drive

Question: “I have lost interest in having sex with women, and I visit bbw sites to wet my appetite. I don’t understand why…please help!”   Joy’s Answer: I have thought about your question over the past day or so. I don’t have a lot of background information to help me navigate your personal challenge, but…

Just Ask Joy: Sexless Marriage – HELP!

Just Ask Joy Question: “My husband and I have been together for 13 years. We have not had sex in the last 3 years. This pattern began when he was laid off and has continued after he gained employment. He has been to a doctor and his testosterone levels are fine, but our personal life…

Sisters: Genetics, G-Spots and the hmm factor!

Image via Wikipedia So, my sister has been here for a lovely weekend filled with bio-luminescence, good food and colorful conversation. My sis and I, while being absolute best friends beyond what the average sisters achieve, are also totally opposite. She is the older sister, though I think I am, she runs a home daycare…

Just Ask Joy: Sexual compatibility, massage and Tantra

One of Tantrachick’s readers, ‘Chris’, asked a most interesting question this week. Although Chris’s challenges are unique in their expression, having opposing foreplay preferences (one partner likes a quick kiss and a fuck while the other likes to make out for hours before making love) is a common issue between new and long-term lovers. Also,…