Update From Joy

Hey lovelies, The past couple weeks have been wonderfully productive, but my focus was not on blogging. My daughter opened her tattoo parlour this weekend! It was quite the process. There was a little stress in the final days leading up to the Health Department inspection, but other than that we were mainly feeling excited…

Erotic Trance: Going Deeper

Hey lovelies, As a deeply erotic and empowered woman who also happens to be a Hypnotherapist, I have been using erotic trance in my personal life for many, many years. I recently mentioned it to a friend who had no idea what I was talking about, which made me realize you might not be aware…

Have a Blissful New Year!

Hey lovelies, I wanted to take a moment to wish you all a blissful New Year’s Eve and prosperity and joy in the coming year! I am not big on new year’s resolutions, but I do enjoy reflecting on my life and future at this time of year. I have learned a lot about myself…

“My Body is My Brain Bag”

Hey lovelies, This week on Tantrachick we have been discussing body image issues and a variety of related topics. With this in mind, I thought the following attack on actress Carrie Fisher was perfectly on topic. While we were talking about this important topic, Carrie has received an onslaught of negativity because of her recent…

Blogging: Find Your Voice

Dear Shay-lon, I actually received a few additional emails on the topics of writing and blogging.  I thought it might be helpful to begin the conversation here on the Tatnrachick blog. I know Lee was looking for blog topic ideas as well, so maybe something will come from this post. As a blogger, one of…

My Body: With Joy

This is actually a tough subject for me to talk about. I actually had no idea how I felt about my body until I contemplated writing this post. I wish I could say that I love every inch of my body from the bottom to the top (can you tell which song my daughter is…

Guest Post: My Body

Let’s start from the bottom! I have size 11 UK feet; they are slender and long and perfect for swimming. I love swimming and I would say this is my favourite activity. My feet are like an engine to keep me afloat and allow me to soar through the water with ease. They resemble hobbit…

My Daughter’s Tattoo Parlour!

Hey Lovelies, As you can likely imagine, I raised my oldest daughter, Eden Nelson to be a free spirited dreamer. She was home schooled for a good portion of her school years, then she attended high school and graduated in 2015. She has always been an artist; it is in her spirit and she is…

Merry Christmas

Hey lovelies, I realize that this blog attracts viewers from around the world who may or may not celebrate Christmas. But I do celebrate Christmas and I have received so many blessing this year I wanted to take a moment to connect with you and wish you a Merry Christmas. This is the first Christmas…

Grateful for this day.

Lee wrote a beautiful blog post for you all, but based on the events that took place today, I chose to wait until after Christmas to share his post. Instead, I would like to share my gratitude to the universe. Last week when I was coming home from Grinnell, where I was attending an intentional…

What Is Porn?

After my recent Porn Addiction post, I received a variety of emails and comments that were not all posted on the blog. With the permission of a lovely fella from Denver, CO, I would like to share the question he emailed me: “Joy. Loved your post on porn, but I have a twist on it that I’d…

Being Naked Cont.

I have received so many comments and emails about the topic of nudity, that I decided to keep the conversation going. Communication like this is important to our personal development and our growth as a society. My voice is just one in a crowd of millions, so please feel free to pull up a chair,…

Me, Myself, and Muse

Yesterday Mountain called me and said, “Please stop whatever you’re doing and listen for just a minute.” So I stopped what I was doing and gave him my full attention. He went on to tell me that he had just finished listening to something and he immediately felt like I was supposed to listen to…

Guest Post: What is Sensuality

  What is sensuality? by Lee Sinden It’s pretty much as it sounds and of course, involves the senses. It is the feeling of being gratified through your senses such as sight, sound, touch, smell and taste. A piece of music can be sensual if it makes you feel good and makes you feel calm….

Being Tantrachick

Over the past few weeks, I have been working with Nicholas Chalmers, a coach who “Helps entrepreneurs and powerful dreamers perform better by tapping into “inner worthiness.” My intention in working with Nicholas is to overcome my resistance to being “Tantrachick”. We have been using a healing modality called “EFT” (Emotional Freedom Technique) to help…

Being Naked With Joy

First I want to thank Lee for contributing to Tantrachick in his recent post: Being Naked! I am thrilled to have another voice speaking their truth in this sacred space. It warms my heart and brightens my soul to walk this path with you! There was a follow-up comment on Lee’s post. When I began…

Guest Post: Being Naked

It seems that being naked is quite a complicated matter. It can give a feeling of embarrassment, desire, lust, freedom, fear, allure, peace, panic and I could go on. As a child, you feel none of this at all and feel free to run around the house, the beach, the street completely naked as long…

My Badass Day!

Hey lovelies, Wow, things are flowing with such epic beauty I am weak at the knees. My day began with an empowering meeting where I drew some boundaries and did not allow myself to respond to someone else’s needs at the expense of my own (Joy pats herself on the back for learning to grow…

Porn Addiction

Hey lovelies, Yesterday one of my clients who I have been working with over the past year or so mentioned an untapped area of my practice. He thought I should focus on assisting people with porn addiction to transform their loving energy into their actual own life. I guess I don’t talk about this subject…

Fearless With Joy

Hey lovelies, From the tone of the emails I have been receiving lately, I am aware that most if not all of you have noticed my less sparkly self expression over the past couple of years. Over the past couple of weeks I have been working with a life coach. He is an incredibly wise,…

Tantric Magic on Patreon

Hey lovelies, Many of you have recently sent me emails, Facebook messages, or Twitter messages of support. I guess it is obvious through my writing that I have lost some of my inner sparkle over the past couple of years. You will be happy to know that my sparkle is back. I had to open…

Focus

Hey lovelies, For those of you who have been reading my blog over the past 5 years, you have likely noticed that the frequency of my posts has plummeted. I haven’t had the positive mental focus needed to reflect on why this is. I think that more than anything else, I am just needing to…

Not So much…

I forgot to update you. I chickened out. I did not go to my meeting with the esteemed Dominatrix. She texted me needing to change our appointment, which I took as a sign that it was not meant to be. I wanted to clarify my intention for this meeting. I receive so many emails, questions,…

My Date With a Mistress

I don’t yet have permission to share details…hoping to get confirmation tomorrow during my meeting. I am connecting with a Dominatrix tomorrow evening. My interest in the combo of pleasure and gentle, seductive pain has grown. I know curiosity kills the cat, so wish me luck…I will literally be visiting a the dungeon of a professional…

Like a Woman

I must admit, although life sometimes throws me a few obstacles, overall I lead a simple life. Last night I wound down with a couple glasses of Moscato while chatting with my sweet lover. We went to be around 11 pm, which began with a lovely cuddle. I enjoy placing my head on his bare…

I am a Woman and I Love SEX!

Hello lovelies, Although it has been more difficult to find my groove here in the Midwest, I still work with women, couples, and I regularly share my thoughts about intimacy with people from around the world. One of the biggest challenges facing couples in long term relationships is keeping their sex lives active enough, engaging enough…

Flash Erotica: Part 2

Flash Erotica: Let’s Fuck I’ve wanted to fuck Cindi for as long as I can remember. At night I dream of her. During the day, she occupies my thoughts and my cock. If I need to focus on something, I have to block her from my mind. If I think about her for too long I cum uncontrollably. Yesterday…

Flash Erotica

Hey lovelies, I have finally found my niche…Flash Erotica is a complete story told in 100-1500 words. For the die hards, it is more like 100-500 words…The funny thing about me is that I write constantly and I also read constantly. When I am writing, I force myself to draw things out, share more details…

Happy Halloween!

I love Halloween! I made both costumers and did the make up. The “living dead girl” is my youngest daughter. BOO!

Podcast With Joy

Hey lovelies, Sorry I haven’t been writing to you as often. Life has been busy. Things have improved dramatically since the last time I checked in and I have a new project I am passionate about! I am working on creating a Podcast. I love to talk, I love to interview people and more than…

50 Shades of Grey: Dark Tantra

As a woman who embraces life, adventure, and excitement…and explores sexuality both personally and professionally, it makes sense that my interests would evolve. When I went to the theater to see 50 Shades of Grey, I was only going because the book and movie, although deeply sexual, were totally embraced by main stream media and…

Domestic Goddess

Hey lovelies, Today is such a glorious day! The sun is shining brightly and there is a gentle Autumn breeze that is simply divine. The past couple weeks we have purchased a variety of local apples…for an unknown reason, even though my house is filled with apple lovers, no one has eaten the apples. So…

Checking In…

Hey lovelies, I wanted to wish you a blissful Sunday! Also, I wanted to mention that I am tired of hearing my own voice! At one point we had a thriving community of active participants and often had one or more on going conversations. I took a sabbatical and since then have found that things…

Day Three: 30 Day Intimacy Challenge

Hey lovelies, You may have noticed that I changed the title of our challenge from 30 Day Sex Challenge to 30 Day Intimacy Challenge. On the third day of our challenge (yesterday) I had the most intense cramps. Sorry to go all girly on ya here, but a woman’s monthly cycle is part of life….

Day Two: 30 Day Sex Challenge

Hey lovelies, I must say, I know i am only on the third day of this sex challenge, but I highly recommend it to couples who are wanting to reconnect. Mountain and I have not drifted apart, we are not having relationship issues, and overall things are wonderful in our relationship. However, the pressures of…

Day One: 30 Day Sex Challenge

Evening lovelies, So day one was a success! It was like the universe laughed at us, taunted us, and threw a variety of intimacy road blocks at us, but we managed to end our evening (even though we tried twice earlier and were rudely interrupted) with beautiful foreplay (sweet chit-chat, holding hands while laying naked and…

30 Day Sex Challenge

Hey lovelies, I am back. Rejuvenated and focused. I know I alluded to some challenges I have faced without fully sharing…Although I do not feel that this is the space for me to discuss some of my more personal topics (funny, since I discuss my sex life here lol) I will say that things are…

Sexual Bliss

Do you know what I find quite incredible? While working to help one of my client’s reconnect with their sexual energy, I asked them to explore their deepest fantasy within their mind. I saw a light turn on inside their mind and, although I don;t usually directly ask, for some reason I asked…”What is your…

Do You Carry Floggers?

Today is my birthday, so yesterday Mountain took me to Flix Brewhouse and Theater for a meal and a movie with sangria. As we were sitting there eating, drinking and chatting about life, Mountain mentioned that I have been a bit more testy than usual. We had a discussion about my recent shift in attitude….