Intimacy Coaching Sessions With Joy

Transformation begins with YOU! How would your life change if you could tap into your full sexual potential? In the past few weeks I have been working with a lot of new clients. After a year of dealing with immigration and work permits, I am excited to be doing what I love again! I work…

The Art of Female Orgasm

Another topic of discussion the past couple weeks with many of my clients is the art of female orgasm. I have found it so interesting to talk to men who have been sexually intimate for many years and women who have been sexually active for many years, but still don’t grasp the female orgasm. There…

Tantra With Joy…

During my teens, I was shy, unsure of myself, and had some major self-esteem issues. I had a tendency to dress in bulky clothing that deflected attention away from my body. Part of my motivation was to deflect the attention of my adopted dad who began sexually assaulting me as a young child. My efforts…

Not a Nudist

If you take offense to the title of my blog, I am passing the buck to my fellow Salt Spring hot tub goers, who came up with the title during a hot tub chat. Sunday afternoons, generally around 3pm, I head to my local swimming pool and soak in the hot tub. Often, there are…

Erotic Enigma

I think I may have written about this topic before, but I have a deeper understanding of the meaning and how it applies to me:-) First, the definition… e·rot·ic/iˈrätik/ – Of, relating to, or tending to arouse sexual desire or excitement. e·nig·ma/iˈnigmə/ – A person or thing that is mysterious, puzzling, or difficult to understand….

Let's Connect…

On the grid, but not much to say….this is all she wrote…from my heart to yours….from my lust to yours…sweet dreams…. Lay your hands on me… Feel me…find me…merge with me… Let’s connect… Find the me within… Discover my essence… Let’s connect… Dig your breath into me… Into my soul…my body…my mind…my heart… Cherish me…….

How to Orgasm: for Men:-)

You might be thinking; WTF Joy? I’m a guy, like I don’t know how to have an orgasm. In fact, you may even be reading this article just to find out what kind of nonsense I’m peddling. Well, I’m not peddling anything. What I am doing is trying to share an important message; a message…

Do you Want to Know the Truth?

I blog….I blog about sex, sexuality, Tantra, Tantric massage, yoni massage, sexual healing, healing….and then there’s the deep stuff…Sometimes I blog about it too…rape, BDSM, relationships, eros….and beyond eros…and the shadow side of eros…but when it gets right down to it…I blog my thoughts…they flow like water…sometimes, they flow like water as it rolls across…

Can Tantra Increase My Lady's Libido?

Question: Can Tantra help elevate my wife’s libido? If so, how? Joy’s Answer: As with most of the questions I am asked…it is very challenging to answer a question without additional information of  a very intimate and personal nature. However, I can share my thoughts based on both my experience and the experiences of my clients. If…

Just Ask Joy: Sexless Marriage – HELP!

Just Ask Joy Question: “My husband and I have been together for 13 years. We have not had sex in the last 3 years. This pattern began when he was laid off and has continued after he gained employment. He has been to a doctor and his testosterone levels are fine, but our personal life…

Orgasmic Conscious Breath…

This is an excerpt from my Joyous Meditation post…it touches base on deep breathing, which is also an ongoing discussion… While my sexual energy and arousal continue to intensify, I feel as if I am floating on a wave of deeply erotic energy. I draw my hands along my body, exploring and embracing every aspect…

Thesis Interview: Tantra With Joy

I sort of forgot about this interview until another university student recently expressed her interest in my work and practice. This is an interview from 2010 with Sarah, who was completing her University thesis project…her thesis paper was spectacular…I only have access to the interview to share, but it was just before I started this blog,…