Finding Balance…

Image via Wikipedia I apologize for not blogging as much recently. I have been going through a few gigantic changes….they are kind of personal (I know, I know, like my sex life isn’t:-) however, these changes involve the lives of others, so I won’t dig into the nitty gritty of it…My mantra…the one that is getting…

How to Supercharge a Sexless Marriage…

I have been reminiscing about the sex coaching sessions I’ve had with couples over the past few years. Out of all the sessions, the biggest concern that many couples bring up is either the lack of sex or the lack of soul warming, satisfying sex with their partner. Typically, during the first couple years of a relationship, the…

Sexual Healing: Just Take Me…

I agree whole heartedly with  naturegirl1‘s comment” “The problem I would have is that I like to use my hands, so that would preclude any chance of ME being submissive, but more to the point I have trouble equating with any form of “control” over a sexual partner. To me, sex and lovemaking is about…

The Many Masks We Wear…

So many individuals and couples find themselves feeling shameful or guilty about their sexuality, the way they express their sexuality or their sexual appetite. As a Tantric practitioner and Sex coach, the balancing act is possibly even more challenging. My main role in life is as a mother. Secondary to my role as a mother…

Sexual Energy Loop…

It is simply amazing how, by focusing on your breath and then circulating it through your body…you are able to bring your sexual energy into focus and enhance your arousal…Take a moment sometime today and imagine breathing your sexual energy in through your lingam or yoni….draw it up your spine, feeling it flow into you heart chakra,…

Take Me…

When you give in…give in to you…do you truly give in? Do you release yourself and let go…to experience the bliss of the moment…your moment? As you explore your body, do you follow a map, or allow yourself to melt into the moment…melt into your touch…feel…truly feel your touch… As your hands flow across your…

Community, Connecion and Great Sex!

Image via Wikipedia So, for those of you who don’t know me personally, you may not be aware of the fact that my husband and I have two of our best friends, a couple who recently moved here from AZ with their two kids, staying with us. They are here for at least the end of July and…

When Is Love Real?

In response to Jeff’s comment: From Jeff: “I wanted to share this with you it is a question Jeff Brown is asking… Whenever I fell in love in 7 seconds, I was sure I was seeing the soul. And then the stuff came- the defences, habits, patterns. And then it was like, wait a minute,…

Break on Through to the Other Side….

Okay, so, for those of you who read this blog regularly…you may know that I have loads of company, tonnes of kids AND I am in the middle of a beautifully challenging and intense Tantra Bootcamp! So, my Tantra creative well is, well, to be honest, running a little low! One of my visitors is…

Vajrayogini

This quote is bouncing around in my mind today…Thought I would share it with you…   “I am not suited to polite society, to social striving, upward mobility and making good impressions. I am radically honest, sensitive, brilliant and blunt. I hold up a mirror to the best and worst facets of human life. ~Vajrayogini~

Ethical Pervert…Joy's Thoughts…

Pervert: ‘A person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.’ After reading this standard definition for pervert, I must ask: abnormal or unacceptable by whose standards? Some may think that what Mac Mclelland recently did – use a sexual role play scenario to overcome post traumatic stress disorder – is unacceptable. I, on the other hand, think it…

Just Ask Joy: Sexual compatibility, massage and Tantra

One of Tantrachick’s readers, ‘Chris’, asked a most interesting question this week. Although Chris’s challenges are unique in their expression, having opposing foreplay preferences (one partner likes a quick kiss and a fuck while the other likes to make out for hours before making love) is a common issue between new and long-term lovers. Also,…